10 Green Flags to Look For in Their Texts

We talk a lot about red flags in dating — and for good reason. But it’s just as important to recognize the green ones. Here are 10 texting green flags that show someone is genuinely worth your time. Want to know what warning signs to avoid? Check out our guide on dating red flags in texts.

1. They ask follow-up questions

Anyone can ask “how was your day?” But someone who remembers you mentioned a job interview and follows up with “how did that interview go?” is paying real attention.

Follow-up questions are one of the strongest signals of genuine interest.

2. They match your energy

If you send a longer, thoughtful message, they respond with equal effort. If you’re keeping things light, they do too. Energy-matching shows emotional intelligence and respect.

3. Consistent response times

Not instant — consistent. Someone who replies within a few hours regularly is showing you that you’re a priority. Consistency beats speed every time.

4. They initiate conversations

You’re not always the one texting first. They reach out to share something funny, ask how you’re doing, or continue a previous conversation. Initiative is effort, and effort is interest.

5. They remember details

“Didn’t you say your sister’s birthday is this weekend?” or “How was that restaurant you were excited about?” Remembering small details from past conversations is one of the most underrated green flags.

6. They respect your boundaries

You said you’re busy and can’t chat? They respond with “no worries, talk later!” and don’t guilt-trip you. Boundary respect in the early stages is a strong predictor of healthy dynamics later.

7. They use humor naturally

Not forced jokes or copied pickup lines — genuine humor that fits the conversation. Someone who can make you laugh over text will probably be even better in person. When you want to add some flirtiness to your replies, here are the best flirty texts to send.

Not trauma-dumping, but genuine openness. “Honestly, I’m a little nervous about our date — in a good way” shows emotional maturity and authenticity.

9. They acknowledge your feelings

If you express excitement, frustration, or nervousness, they validate it rather than dismissing it. “That sounds really stressful, I’m sorry” beats “it’s not that bad” every time.

10. They suggest meeting up

At some point, someone genuinely interested wants to meet you in person. If they proactively suggest grabbing coffee or doing an activity together, that’s a strong signal of real interest.

Spotting patterns, not just moments

A single green flag doesn’t mean much on its own. What matters is the pattern — consistent positive signals over time.

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