The Best Flirty Texts to Send Your Crush (That Actually Work)

Flirting over text is an art. Go too strong and you come off as creepy. Play it too safe and you end up in the friend zone. The sweet spot? Confident, playful, and just a little bold.

Here are flirty texts that actually work — plus tips on when to use them. Looking for even more inspiration? Check out our 50 flirty text replies guide.

The golden rules of flirty texting

Before we get to the examples, a few ground rules:

Read the room. Only escalate flirtiness if they’re matching your energy.
Be specific. Generic compliments (“you’re hot”) are boring. Specific ones (“that smile in your third photo is something else”) land.
Use humor. Funny-flirty beats serious-flirty almost every time. Not sure how? Learn how to be funny over text.
Don’t overdo it. One flirty text per conversation is enough. Let it breathe.

Light and playful flirty texts

These work early in the conversation when you’re testing the waters. For even more examples, check out our 50 flirty text replies that actually work:

“I have to be honest — I’ve been smiling at my phone since your last message”
“You’re dangerously easy to talk to. I should probably be sleeping right now”
“I think you might be trouble… and I’m kind of here for it”
“Your bio made me laugh out loud and now my roommate thinks I’m weird”
“I don’t usually message first but your profile gave me no choice”

Compliment-based flirty texts

When you want to be direct but not over the top:

“Not going to lie, you have really good energy in your photos”
“Something about the way you write messages is weirdly attractive”
“I keep rereading your messages and finding new things to like about you”
“You’re the kind of person I’d actually want to get stuck in traffic with”

Bold flirty texts

For when you’ve been chatting a while and the vibe is clearly mutual. Ready to take things to the next level? Here’s how to ask someone out over text with confidence.

“Just so you know, I’m already thinking about our first date”
“I feel like we’d have incredible in-person chemistry”
“Is it too soon to say I’m a little obsessed with this conversation?”
“I’m starting to think matching with you was the best thing I did all month”

When flirty texting goes wrong

A few things to avoid:

Pet names too early (“hey gorgeous” to someone you haven’t met = cringe)
Sexual innuendo before it’s welcome (read the room, always)
Excessive compliments (one great compliment > five mediocre ones)
Ignoring their boundaries (if they don’t flirt back, dial it down)

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